A bad stretch of days

It all started on Friday night.  I had two days in a row of an intense work out on the ol’ cross trainer at the gym, and I think I over did it.  By night’s end my pelvic area was so sore that it hurt to walk up the stairs, get in and out of the car, and pretty much do anything.  I hated it!  I already had some pain, which I attributed to Pelvic Girdle Pain that started about a week ago, but was amplified by the work out.  Unfortunately, that put me into lazy mode most of Saturday.

Saturday night after a girl’s night out, I came home and was flipping through the netflix que with Dan, and saw the documentary The Business of Being Born, and decided to check it out.  This is a documentary that outlines the positive outcomes to home births and why it is so much better do give birth naturally, than with drugs.  They go into the negative effects that induction has on a baby (particularly pitocin) and why the hospital system has failed us.  Dan only lasted about ten minutes watching the film.  In his words…”this crunchy stuff is stupid”.  I was merely curious as to what they had to say…and who knows, I may have a few take-aways from it.  Let me just say that I have a great deal of respect for Moms that decide to deliver naturally.  I think it’s beautiful, courageous, and a selfless act for your newborn.  However, with that being said, I don’t think that those who choose not, to love their newborn any less.  This movie made some claims that the release of oxitocin during a natural delivery, creates a bond that is unmatched by Moms that deliver with an epidural.  I can’t speak for the Moms that gave birth naturally, but the euphoria after delivery with Parker was pretty intense.  I was so full of love and joy, and we had a bond that was such a precious moment.  I did have an epidural, and I fully intend on having one again with my next delivery.  I don’t  think that makes me a bad Mom or any less loving because of this choice.  I choose this because I am an anxious person and if I have the choice to have something that will ease the pain of delivery and help me have a positive experience, then I am all for it.  I am however, a little apprehensive about the usage of pitocin in deliveries. It is proven that it does cause more intense contractions, which can put the baby in fetal distress, or if is not given when the cervix is ready, can increase the risk of a c-section.  The pitocin causes the contractions to be stronger and closer together, which can be harder for the baby to handle.  This movie has brought that to my attention.  I understand if you are a week or more past your due date and you need pitocin, but there are a lot of hospitals that are giving pitocin to speed up deliveries without even needing it in order to have higher patient turn overs, or to have the deliveries happen at a time that is convenient for them.  I think this is something that pregnant Moms should question.  Before you are given pitocin, ask your doctor what your bishop score is.  This will give you a better idea if you’re a good canidate for pitocin, or if your doctor is trying to speed up your delivery without there being a need to.

So, after watching this movie, I had THE WORST dream about my delivery.  I think it started to scare me a bit knowing that my delivery is coming up pretty soon and also knowing that I birth larger babies.  My dream had me in the delivery room and the baby was already in my arms.  I was completely knocked out during my delivery and had no recollection of the labor at all.  To some, that may be a blessing, but I was not happy with my complete altered state of conciseness at the time.  Thank God it was just a dream.

So, on Sunday I woke up after not only having a horrible dream, but with an excruciating head ache which was attributed to the lack of sleep from a head cold that left me without usage of my nostrils.  I was so exhausted, that I laid around most of the day, missed church…basically being a waste of life.  Then it hit me around 4pm…NAUSEA!  I was a spewing spout… to put it eloquently.  It continued through the night, and turned me into a lump of worthlessness all day Monday.  I don’t think I’ve ever felt that bad during pregnancy.  It’s bad enough that you’re puking every  few minutes, but then to have a baby inside you kicking your belly while you toss your cookies is another!  Fortunately, my Mom came to the rescue and came to help out with Parker while I rested and recovered.  This is the second time during this pregnancy that I got a stomach bug.  What are the chances?  Is someone trying to test me? I was starting to feel better by night’s end last night and settled into a good restful night sleep.

That was until 6:30 am, when Parker started screaming from his room.  This boy…never wakes up at night.  I mean, he could sleep through a hurricane.  This wasn’t a normal baby cry.  This was a SICK baby cry.  I had given my poor little boy the stomach bug.  We’ll spare you the details, but it was so sad when we went to get him.  After we cleaned him up and redressed him, we tried to give him some love and bring him into our bed, but he was in no snuggling sleepy mood.  He was ready to start his day… a cranky pants kind of day.

After dinner he started to snap out of his cranky mood.  Dan even got him to grin from ear to ear and open his arms real big and wide when we say “So Big!”.  I complained all day about how he wouldn’t let me hold him.  However,  tonight when it came time to put him down for bed after reading him a book, I picked him up and went to kiss him, and he wouldn’t let go of my neck.  I would peel him off, and he’d cling again tight just loving on his Mama.  Oh how I love that boy!  That just made my day.

4 thoughts on “A bad stretch of days

  1. I love debating issues related to childbirth and enjoyed reading your blog post, Sharon. As a nurse and mother of three, I have seen and experienced lots of different childbirth scenarios. In general, it seems that certified nurse midwives are more willing to let nature take its course and physicians are more apt to use medical intervention to speed up delivery. Each woman has to decide which style suits her best. I think there are advantages to each option, however, I elected to have a physician deliver my children.
    All three of my sons were delivered vaginally after induced labors. I had to be induced at 37 weeks with my first baby because my water broke. Second baby was an elective induction at 38 weeks. Third baby was a recommended induction at 38 weeks. With my last two pregnancies, I had pregnancy induced thrombocytopenia (low platelets). As the pregnancy progresses, the platelets continue to drop. So if the platelets are trending down, delivery is usually recommended at or just after 38 weeks. Besides the risk of bleeding, there is also a rule that you can’t have an epidural if your platelets get too low. We didn’t want that to happen!
    In two of my three labors, there was some fetal distress. I know the pitocin caused it, because when they turned it off and changed my position and gave me oxygen, baby’s heart tones went back to normal. I never panicked because I knew I was being closely monitored and was in good hands. Was I at higher risk for a c-section because I was induced? Probably. It was a chance I was willing to take. I knew if my baby needed to be delivered in a hurry, my medical team would take care of us. If I had to do it all over again, I would.
    Could I deliver without an epidural? Maybe. Why would I want to put myself through that when epidurals are safe and effective? I loved being able to enjoy my deliveries and would not have been able to experience the joy of giving birth had I not been medicated.
    My babies were born healthy and strong and did not need any intervention during their transition from the inside to the outside. I didn’t care about them less because I chose their birthdays instead of letting them come on their own. I’m not really sure it makes a difference as long as the pregnancy is at term and the doctor gives the go ahead.
    All of this is to say that each birth is unique. You can’t put people in a box and say they should do things a certain way. And you can’t judge others for choosing to do things naturally or with every intervention in the book. Birth plans are fine but people need to understand they have to be willing to be flexible. Things can instantly go from normal to emergent and you have to have the flexibility to go with the advice and interventions of your medical team. We are lucky enough in this country to have lots of options to get our babies delivered safely!

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  2. Thanks for your comment Ruth! I’m not aware of all the reasons why induction and use of pitocin and medical intervention is a good idea. Hearing your situation was great info to take away. I think you’re right in saying that each birth is unique, and you can’t judge others for choosing one way or another. I guess with anything in medicine, sometimes you have to question your rights because the motives of the doctors (especially if you’re not 100% comfortable with your practice, which I’m not) can sometimes be skewed in their own favor. I’m sure that isn’t always the case. I’m glad to hear that you’re inductions were successful and that you trust the medical team. You are SO right in saying that we are lucky to have the flexibility and options to deliver babies safely!

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  3. Hey Sharon!
    I too had to be induced with pitocin. My water broke at 35 weeks 5 days but I didn’t go into active labor so they had to give me pitocin. I had three epidurals, none I which worked due to previous back issues, so I basically delivered naturally. It was not anything I would recommend. Like Dan when i watched that movie I thought it was a little hooey but that is just me. Why would you risk having something happen to your child during labor and have your baby at home when we have such great hospitals?? But i Have friends that wanted to do it naturally (both ended up with epidurals) and they were very gung ho about it.

    I will tell you that when my two best friends had their second children it was so quick that neither had time for an epidural!! So be prepared for that 🙂

    Wish you all the luck and send my love to you Dan and Parker.

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  4. Hey woman! Glad to hear that little man is on his way. Good luck in there and I’ll be praying everything goes smoothly. I induced with my first child cuz he was taking his sweet time coming (two weeks past) and I wound up w a C-section because his big ole’ head was stuck in my pelvic bones! To each his own on the way of birthing their kids, but I’ll take the general Anesthesia any day of the week… (i was cut while awake with the first, had no memory of the second with epi, and with my third, jesse, I was out completely). Doing that again with this baby! Yey for sleep! Home birth is too risky after so many c-sections, although I really wanted to have mine naturally. But could you imagine trying to birth a baby at home when their head is stuck inside you? Show me a midwife able to get you out of that scenario…! 10 hrs of transitional labor and nothing to show for it…I BEGGED for my Cesarean, even after the drugs! LOL
    I’m so happy for you and Dan. The first baby is always a joy, but baby number 2 just doubles the fun, and the love! Congrats woman. You’re a fantastic momma. The Lord is with you through all of this and He’s given you AT LEAST four guardian angels at all times. Love you girl! Post pics soon!-Carolyn

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