When you’re a teeny bopper and approaching college age you’re bothered by questions like “So, what do you want to major in when you go to college…” or “What do you want to be when you grow up?” Then once you get that figured out, and you move on and meet someone very special in your life and it’s “So, when are you both planning to get married?” Then after you get married of course the inevitable question “So, when are you guys planning to have kids?” you wait until the time is right and have your very first child and then the questions continue “So, when are you planning for number Two?”
Of course, me being the “planner” that I am, I have already thought about this. We have both always wanted our kids close together, but now that I see how much work goes into one baby, the thought of having two excitingly terrifies me. Confused? Me too. Let me break it down for ya.
Pros of Parker having a little sis or bro close in age…
-Parker will have a friend to play with that is close in age. My brother and I are 18 months apart and we were very close growing up. We had some of the same friends in highschool and I even borrowed some of his Quicksilver t-shirts. We were pals and having a big bro close in age was ‘da bomb.
-When our kids are school age, they’ll be school age around the same time. I won’t have to worry about taking care of an infant and missing out on chaperoning a school field trip or getting involved in the T-ball team.
-Once they’re out of the infant stage and potty trained, I can put away the exersaucers and diapers and never have to see them again. I won’t have to break them back out a few years later when we decide to have number two. Having them closer together could mean that they’re interested in the same things (ie Sesame Street) around the same time.
-When we’re on family vacations, having the kids close in age will allow us to enjoy activities sooner without having to wait for the youngest to be “old enough” to be out of infant stage and able to go to theme parks or rides.
-The price of health care keeps going up, so why not take advantage of the lower rates soon before we loose our shirts on the increase in rates in the years to come?
-You’ll be younger if you hurry up and have your kids together. You don’t have a big gap when the second one moves out and goes to college. You can begin to plan retirement sooner.
Cons of having a little sis or bro close in age…
-Life will be pretty chaotic during infancy and will I possibly be able to give them BOTH enough of love and attention if they’re both so close in age? Will I be taking something away from Parker by doing this?
-Being pregnant can do a number on your figure. Having babies close together can make it harder to lose the baby weight in time for baby number two, and even harder to shed the LB’s after the baby comes.
-Dan travels a lot during the week, which will basically mean that I’ll be by myself with two babies under the age of two. Is that doable or will I literally go insane? What about when Dan is home? Will he ever be able to be on a conference call without having to lock himself into his car inside the garage?
-When they’re close in age, they may like the same things, but they also may fight over them too. I know my brother and I had a fair share of giving each other wet willies and backseat fights. We were constantly trying to push each other’s buttons and trying to drive our parents insane.
-Of course there are the financial implications of having them close together. There just isn’t as much time to save money for nursery furniture, baby wardrobe (especially if its a girl) and all the other baby essentials.
-Having them close together would mean having two kids in this small townhouse (I say small, but I guess 2,2oo sqft isn’t TOO bad) without a real yard to play in. I’m not sure if waiting would mean that we would be in a different home though. With the housing market the way it is, we could be here forever!
-I’ve heard that its not fun having two kids under two and having to run errands where you have to bring them along. Actually, I’ve heard it sucks really bad.
Wait a minute… how did the Cons get so long? We’re praying about it to see when the best time for us will be. We were thinking about starting to try around Summertime or Fall, but we’re not sure yet. We shall see.