Well, Thanksgiving is behind us, and fortunately I survived without gaining any extra unneeded weight! Wohoo! I think this last week was the hardest because of the holiday, but I still managed to get some exercising in and catch up with family in the process. Here’s are a few pictures of us (minus a few people) on Thanksgiving at my grandparent’s farm in Lake Hartwell.
We enjoyed spending time with each other over turkey and getting in a much needed stroll afterwards. We didn’t have all of the family there, and we missed those that didn’t make it a lot. With the enjoyment of friends and family and also with Dan being home, I think it was easy for me to loose track of what I was putting in my mouth. I tried to stay pretty active this week, but I’m still struggling with my food intake (quantity and food choices). I think breastfeeding makes me extra hungry. My goal this week is to try drinking a large glass of water every time I’m hungry in between meals or when I feel the urge to over eat. I’ve heard that this can give a person a sense of “fullness” and not to mention that it’s good for you. I’ve also read that cold water in particular will cause the body to burn a few calories just warming it up to your body temperature. So, Ice water it is! We’ll see how that works out. I’ve still just made it to the gym twice this week, so my intense exercising hasn’t really increased. I would like to challenge myself to hit the gym every day that Dan is home. I’ve been apprehensive because that usually means working out on the weekend…which to me usually equals “fun” time.
Can I say for the record that I absolutely LOVE my little boy! This past week he has been SO good and I actually feel like my little schedule has put us into this rhythm… This sort-of understood bond has developed between us and it has turned me into the confident Mom that I never thought I’d be. We visited the pediatrician last week, and of course, I had a boat load of questions for him. He probably thought I wasn’t ever going to shut up. I asked him about all my concerns regarding sleep, and scheduling and he was all ears. Of course, I should’ve known…I’ve been over-thinking this whole sleep thing the whole time. I was using this as a strict guide, and instead of using it as a general guideline. The first thing that I wanted to “correct” was his short naps (particularly the early AM nap) His answer for that is that at this age, it’s virtually impossible to have a 10 week old follow a strict schedule. He said that if he wakes up after 45 mins for his first nap, and you can’t get him to go back to sleep, then he’s probably just not tired. (duh!) Sometimes I think because we have this information superhighway we call the internet, we tend to over think and complicate things. It’s really NOT as complicated as I try to make it. Try to get naps in during the day, create a predictable routine, try to have the longest stretch of sleep at night, feed every 2.5-3 hours. Boom…that’s it. Simplicity. That’s what I need to learn. With that simplicity after Wednesday, I’ve tried to ease up on making Parker take the “recommended” hour and fifteen minute nap, and guess what? As a result, he’s sleeping 8+ hours! Not every night, but he slept 8 hours straight three nights this week, and fed, and slept another three hours right afterward. See what happens when you just let go? The heck with over-thinking it! I’m sure there will be days that aren’t perfect, and that’s OK. I still have my “schedule”, but I’ve been giving myself a fifteen minute “grace” period for feedings and allowing Parker to be flexible with his naps. As long as he gets one long stretch of a nap in for the day, I’m not too concern if he has a few short naps. As a matter of fact, the pediatrician said that it’s completely normal for babies to be “short nappers” up until they’re six months of age. Parker has been so alert and happy lately. He’s smiling and cooing all the time now and it just fills my heart with joy!
Today I took Parker to the doctor for his two month doctor’s appointment. He weighed a whopping 12lbs even, and measured 24″ long. He is in the 79th % for his height and 51st% for his weight. So, he’s tall and lean like his daddy. He had to get several shots today, which made him cry cry cry. Afterward it was conveniently time to feed, so I was able to nurse him. That helped calm him down a lot. It broke my heart to see him in pain like that. However, I’m thankful that we live in a place where we can get preventative care that protects us from such horrible and deadly diseases. We don’t ever really think about it much, but I couldn’t imagine something happening to my little bundle of love.
This Thanksgiving, I am truly thankful for many things. When I think of where we were last year…we so desperately wanted to have a baby and was so sad when it didn’t work out. Sounds so cliche’ but I am truly grateful for my husband and son and also the wonderful family and friends that we get to continue to share life with. Years from now when I look back, there will be no doubt in my mind about where I am in my life today…I am happy, very happy, and it feels great.
Happy Thanksgiving Everyone!
In addition to my once a month update for my weight loss goal, I am also going to try to write each Sunday on my weekly progress at attaining my goal. I’m hoping that this will help me become more accountable by giving me short-term motivation each week.
I am pairing this with an lowdown on the sleepy time with Parker pooh. I’m hoping that this will not only help me remember what worked that week, but also maybe help other readers who, like me are trying to establish a good sleep/nap routine with their little one.
Since last Sunday I can’t say I’ve “hit the ground running” with a great weight loss routine. I feel as if I need someone to hold my hand…someone to smack me into reality and hold me accountable. That sounds super pathetic, I know. Before little baby was in the picture, I would already be up at a certain time for work, so I would just wake up earlier, hop in the car and roll up to they gym and work out. Now I have to work around my husband’s schedule, make sure the baby is fed, and worry constantly when I’m gone. When Parker is napping, it would be a great time to do a video work-out, but all I can think about then is folding laundry, catching up on sleep, making the bed, getting a SHOWER…you know, the basics. With that being said…I haven’t done well this week. I’ve walked the two mile loop just about every day except for two because of rain. Today was the only day since last week that I made it to the gym. I was able to squeeze in 30 min on the cross trainer and crunches. I managed about 50 regular and 20 side and times 2 sets. I was able to hold a plank for about 20 seconds on my feet, and about a minute extra on my knees. Those things are so hard! I’ve dedicated Sundays for reshaping my abs. I’m hoping that I can accomplish THIS one of these days. Thanks Lisa for the great idea! Man do they need some help! My diet has improved a lot. I’ve reduced my sweet intake to one a day and it’s a 100 calorie snack pack. I’ve been getting better about eating lighter dinners, and making breakfast the larger meal of the day. I’ve been hungry a lot this week, and it sucks. Water…been drinking lots and lots of water. Thank God for lemon.
At nine weeks, I think Parker is doing fairly well with his sleep and nap times. We’ve made bedtime at night a fun event that little P and I (okay, maybe just me) look forward to every night. At 8pm sharp, we start the bath and after story time and final feeding, he goes down at 8:30. He goes down really well right now. After he nurses, he’s got heavy eyes, and I wrap him in his halo sleep sack, and off to dreamland he goes. He always sleeps a minimum of 6 hours without waking. When he does wake, we’ve tried a few different things this week. We tried letting him cry for 15 min, to see if he would go back to sleep ( I know, it sucks!!) and we’ve also just gone in there after the first cry and put the passie back in his mouth and left the room with him awake. The conclusion that we’ve drawn at this stage is it doesn’t make a difference if we wait and let him cry, or if we go right in. Once he gets the passie, he’s back to dream land. So, why let him go through all the crying? We tried this approach after reading Baby Wise, and it doesn’t seem to work well for us at night. By no means do I judge anyone who currently uses the methods in Baby Wise. If that works for you and your child, then that’s great! This may all change later down the line if there are future sleep problems. Right now Parker goes down at 8:30 and wakes up somewhere between 2:30am and 3:30 am. We try the passie until 4:30am (8hrs) once, but if he cries a second time, then we know he’s hungry, and I go feed him before the 4:30 (goal time). Most of the time he drifts back to sleep with the passie and waits until 4:30. I did a lot of reading today about this, because of the early wake time to see if I should be feeding him, because I’m afraid that he’ll continue to wake at 6 hours out of habit instead of true hunger. I’m not sure where the balance is between wanting him to sleep 8 hours thus waiting to eat because I know he’s physically able to, and giving in at 6 hours for fear that he’s starving and I’m missing a hunger cue. This is going to be my challenge this week; trying to decifer between the two. I’ve heard that 6 hours is really good for a nine week old, so maybe I’m being over zealous about the whole 8 hour business. Sleep-Training Graduates, please weigh in on my polls!
Nap time has been getting much better this week. Parker is finally sleeping in his crib for at least two naps a day, if not three. This is a big milestone because before he was sleeping everywhere from his carseat, to a swing, to his bouncy chair. I’m not a stickler about making sure that these “props” aren’t being used at all, because let’s be honest… who would want cancel being able to go on walks, or go for a car ride, or out to dinner because naps must be in the crib? Especially when he takes three plus one cat nap. Our routine has been working out pretty well. This is the routine that we’ve settled on and will continue through week 9.
|7:30am- Wake and feed|
|10:30am- Wake and feed|
|1:30pm-Wake and feed|
|4pm- Wake and feed|
|8pm- Bath Time|
|8:30-Sleep for the night|
|4:30am-Wake and Feed|
Rollin’ on the…not river, blanket! Parker rolled over for the first time! I know you probably think I’m lying. Mainly because most babies accomplish this between 4 and 6 months, but I swear. Dan and I were watching him do some belly time. He’s holding his head up so well. I showed him how to roll over, and then we put him back on his belly. The funniest thing happened after that. He arched his back, made a fart, and rolled over onto his back! We were elated with joy. He rolled against the fart… so it’s not like that assisted him in lift off. =) Lizzie our dog was jumping around like crazy trying to figure out why us clowns were clapping and why we were so happy. Ahh…the joys of parenthood. There can’t be anything else that can top this day!
Okay- I’ve had it. I’m done with all this extra baby weight. I thought it would just fall off since I’m breastfeeding, but apparently lack of sleep mixed with halloween candy has taken its toll. So what is a chubby Mom to do? Well, I’m using YOU…my blog readers as motivation. For six months I will update my blog each month with my weight, workout, diet and next month’s goal. I actually am pretty embarrassed to post here my weight, but I don’t care. If anything, it should make you feel better about your weight, and at the same time motivate me to get in shape. See, it’s a win-win.
Here we go:
Height: 5’9″ (just posting this once, sense it won’t change)
Workout: Since Dan is only home on the weekends I’ve taken advantage of the gym TWICE when he’s watched Parker. I am a pretty regular walker of the two-mile loop around the block, but that is the extent of my current work out routine
Diet: My diet is pretty horrible right now. I’m a sucker for Luna nutrition bars, but I’m pretty sure they’re not suppose to be eaten more than three times a day. I’ve had to cut out salads and some high fiber foods because it was causing Parker to be gassy. I’m still a big sucker for sweets too..I have at least 2-3 a day (I know…it’s horrible!) My weakness is chocolate. I’m good about drinking water and I have only the occasional soda. I’m Mostly sticking with lean sandwich meats in sandwiches for lunch and Muesli cereal for breakfast. Dinner can be hit or miss with everything from frozen pizza to chicken and rice.
I want to say for the record that I would like to get this done over night, but I know that it will take some time. Mainly because it took 9 months to put it on, but also because I’m breastfeeding, and I have to make sure that it doesn’t affect my milk supply. This is why I’m stretching this over six months.
Next Month’s Goal: I would like to loose 7lbs taking me to 210. Over the next month I would like to decrease my sweets intake (including chocolate) to once a day. I would like to focus on making my dinner choices better. I would like to work out vigorously three days a week and light exercise two-three days a week. Try to get more sleep at night (or as much as a mom with a baby can!).
Month One Pictures (can you say YUCK!)
Wish me luck! =)
So, this post goes out to all the experienced Mommies out there who, like me, like structure, process, predictability and, well…a schedule. I’m trying to determine when to put little Parker on a schedule. Right now he’s 7 weeks old and we’ve begun to develop a good rhythm, but I certainly don’t have anything written down that I go by on a day to day basis. Some have said that they swaddle put their baby down for a nap three times a day, and some have said that at seven weeks, it’s just too early and they’re too unpredictable to go on a day schedule. I find a day schedule challenging because since Dan travels a lot, I find myself having to go to the store, or attend appointments, or maybe even going for walks throughout the day. I certainly want to get to the point where I have a general nap schedule during the day for Parker, but I don’t know when I should start this. Suggestions!
I’ve been swaddling and putting him down for a nap about once a day for the past few weeks, (when I’m home) but even with that said, it hasn’t been at the same time every day. Today when I put him down for his nap, he screamed bloody murder. I had to pick him up, let him fall asleep on my chest, then I put him in his crib for his nap. Is this wrong at this stage? Don’t get me wrong, I thoroughly plan to let him “cry it out” when he gets to be a little older (I’m thinking around 12 weeks), but how do I ease into a healthy sleep pattern so that Parker feels safe and secure, but also knows his boundaries and develops good sleep habits? This parenting thing isn’t as easy as I thought! I SO hate to hear him cry. Especially since I have a video monitor and I can see him squirming and crying… it just breaks my heart. I know this is going to be the death of me! This is my makeshift schedule that I would like to have as a goal by two and a half months. I’m not sure if this is a good time frame, or how to ease into this, but I am open to suggestions since this is still so new to me!
7:15am-10am Awake/play time
10:15am-11:30am Early Nap
11:30am-1pm Awake/play time
1:15pm-2:30pm Afternoon Nap
2:30pm-4:pm- Awake/play time
4:15pm-5:30pm- Evening Nap
7:15pm- 9pm- Awake/play/bathtime
9pm-9:15 Storytime & Final Feeding
9:30pm Evening Bedtime
I don’t plan on being one of those Moms that abide by a strict schedule to where my entire life revolves around a nap time, feeding and play time, but I DO like the idea of having time frames that keep us on track so Parker can thrive and I can be the best Mommy I can be to him.
This past few weeks have been super busy and fun and sometimes challenging. Here are some tidbits of randomness:
~In my third week of medication for thrush. Fortunately, Parker and I are symptom free and nursing is going really well. We met with a lactation consultant last week and her help was invaluable! I have to say that I thought I had all the answers, but she put us on a “feeding plan” and it has worked wonders for us. We’re developing a great rhythm.
~Last week Parker and I ventured out to the grocery store and Target for the first time. He did SO good. I just put him in the baby bjorn and I was able to get everything I needed on my list while he slept soundly on my chest. I was so nervous, but he was a champ.
~My most favorite part of the day is reading books to Parker. He loves it. We like to read Frog and Toad, Harold and the Purple Crayon, and Love You Forever just to name a few of our favorites…okay, so they’re my favorites, but I’m sure Parker will learn to love them too.
~We had a wonderful Halloween this year. Parker dressed up as a Kangaroo. We called him Parker-Roo. He was the cutest little Kangaroo I’ve ever seen.
~Dan booked travel for his trip to Orlando in December, and Parker and I are going to tag along. It’ll be our first trip with the baby and Parker’s first time on a plane. I’m hoping it’ll go as well as it did for little Avalon. Kaley, if you or Avalon have any tips…please share! Parker and I are going to plan some fun days together while daddy is busy training people at work. I can’t wait!
~Little Parker is gaining so much weight! Last week he weighed in at 11lbs 3oz. He’s such a big boy and he is six weeks today. Can you believe the Ped’s were concerned over one ounce? Puleeez. They had nothing to worry about. My boy is going to be a line backer!
~Speaking of weight…I still have SO much weight to loose. I thought nursing would put me back in my old jeans in no time, but sadly it hasn’t happened yet. I’ve been walking the two mile loop when it’s nice out, but other than that, I haven’t been exercising at all. Mainly because I am still trying to get Parker on a good sleep schedule so that I’m not so tired during the day. Once he starts sleeping more, I plan to get busy on the cardio and the stomach crunches. More updates on that to come!
~A few weeks ago I found out that my aunt and uncle are getting divorced after over 32 years of marriage and three kids. It has broken my heart, and the hearts of the family too. I pray that God will somehow intervene and that the counseling will allow a resolution. To make matters worse, family gossip is ramped and people are taking sides. I’m praying for the unification of my aunt and uncle, as well as the family.
~We’re still going strong with the cloth diapering. It really isn’t so bad with the diaper service. Dan has gotten the hang of it, and it is working out well. We do use with disposables at night though because it is just too darn hard to try and focus when it’s 3am and your dead tired. I don’t feel guilty about it. I’m just happy that for every cloth diaper I use, that’s one disposable that I don’t have to use.
~Dan and I got our H1N1 Vac this weekend. Turns out our pediatrician recommended it for us since Parker is not able to get the vaccine. It is only offered for infants starting at six months of age. With Dan traveling all the time on business, it’s comforting to know that we have some protection.
~Last night Parker slept a little over five hours! I’m convince it was my little “Go to sleep my sweet Parker” lullaby that I made up as well as the gentle wiggle of his belly with my hand while he’s in his crib that did the trick. I’m so proud of him. He’ll be sleeping through the night in no time. Or at least a Momma can hope!
~Today I had my six week check-up at the doctor’s office. Everyone was so happy to see Parker, and it was good to see my doctor that delivered him. He couldn’t believe how much he has grown. Everything has healed up nice…and Dan will be SO happy to hear that I’m “good to go”.
~Dan and I decided to go up to Dahlonega this weekend. It was Parker’s first time and we really enjoyed ourselves. I don’t know what it is about nature that soothes me so much. I just love it. The fall foliage was so beautiful and the weather was perfect. It has rained a lot this season, which made for a very colorful landscape. We went up to Amacalola Falls and even though Parker slept through the stroll up the falls, we had an wonderful time as a family enjoying nature and each other. It was such a blissful little getaway.
~I think I’ve taken more pictures in the past six weeks than I have in the past year. Here are just a few: