Sip and See Baby Hudson

I mentioned in my last post that my neighbor Lauren had her baby last month. Baby Hudson arrived, and a few of us ladies in the neighborhood got together to throw her a Sip and See.

Cherie was responsible for the decor, and she did a great job with the grey and yellow color scheme!  She said after having three boys of her own, she was over blue. It was fresh, new and perfect for a summer party.  I thought a cute idea would be to have onesies as a banner, and have her place stickers on them with his name so that she can use them as decoration as well as have Lauren bring them home for Hudson. I think it turned out super cute! Sarah, Jenny Gray, and Jenny Scroggins also were a big help with food and party items!

It was a fun time of celebration with neighbors, friends and family for the newest member of the Sanders family, and a cute little future buddy for all of our children!

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Independence Day Neighborhood Fun

We really lucked out this year with the weather for the 4th of July.  It was perfect.  Last year it was raining, and even though we had a great time having a few friends over, Mason burned himself on a sparkler, and we had to call it a night early.  Sienna wasn’t really able to enjoy it either because she was so little, and was asleep most of the time.

This year, we had our friends and neighbors the Sanders over.  They recently had their fourth child (a sweet baby boy) named Hudson, and instead of providing a meal for them, we decided to just invite them over to join us for dinner on the fourth.  Parker and their son Davis who is two years older than Parker, always have such a great time playing.  They also have two girls, who are around the same ages as our kids, and they  enjoy playing together too.

I had fun making a American Flag inspired dessert- Angel food Cake topped with homemade strawberry syrup, cool whip, strawberries and blueberries.  Corny, I know, but after looking at all the fun patriotic desserts on Pinterest, I decided to make up my own.  It was delicious.  A tradition in the making, perhaps!

After dinner, we were joined by another family in our neighborhood for fireworks and lined up all the lawn chairs on our grass in the front yard for some grocery store firework fun.  Next year, we’re bringing the big bangs!  We stayed up until 10pm, and the kids did so well without sleep. They were playing and laughing with the other kids, and it made for the perfect little home-based holiday!

 

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Our Colorado Trip

So, it wasn’t really planned to take this trip together.  Dan called me from work one day and said he had booked his Colorado trip.  It would be a weekend trip out to Colorado to visit with family and attend his grandmother’s memorial service.  We had discussed him going ever since they made plans to have the memorial for her, but didn’t discuss me going.  When he called to tell me he had booked the flight, we got to talking about maybe having me go out there too.  We have never left the kids and gone out of state except right across the boarder to Highlands, NC for a New Year’s trip when Parker was 13 months old. Never since having three kids.  We starting talking about my Sister-in-Law Lisa “Aunt LiLi” watching them since she was free during the summer with her youngest, and she is so great with kids and did such a great job with Sienna last time.  I loved the fact that the kids would be at our house instead of in someone else’s house.  I think it’s hard enough when the parents are gone and someone else is watching them, but stick them in a new environment, and it gets even trickier. So, Lisa was able to help us out and stayed at our house, and I booked my flight out there.  Conveniently, my Mom wanted to visit that weekend too, so the kids got a lot of attention from her as well.

Since we had it on our minds, and heaven forbid anything ever happen to us, we made arrangements with a family lawyer to have our Last Will and Testament drawn up.  We hate to think of anything like this, but even more so since we were traveling out of state.  We did not want our children going into state hands, or having our estate divi’d up by the state.  So, we got that completed and signed by witnesses before we left.  We felt like it was the responsible thing to do, even though nobody wanted to think about it!

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We left early on a Friday morning and got to Denver early afternoon.  We gained a few hours in the air, so we had time to spare.  It was so strange flying with just the two of us.  We haven’t flown together without kids since I was pregnant with Parker back in 2009 on our way to Hawaii!  When we arrived, we got our rental car and headed to downtown Denver.  We thought we’d walk around and shop for a bit, and eventually grab lunch.  Dan’s cousin owns a medical marijuana shop in downtown Denver, so we were planning on visiting him too.  We found a nice area that had stores and a nice Fresh Market that had THE YUMMIEST grub.  We decided to eat there for lunch.  The city was different.  It was a little dead at first and then it picked up with the lunch crowd.  There was an interesting mix of hippie grunge folk, young teens, semi-professional daily-grinders with a sprinkle of businessmen here and there. It was great for people watching as well as shopping (new pair of Toms, and make-up at Bare Essentials). It was so nice walking around an not having to keep a mental note where the bathrooms are (for the kiddos), rushing through stores (due to kids boredom) or what time we need to scoot home for one of the kids’ naps!

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During our walk we found a Federal reserve.  They had a very small museum, so we decided we’d check it out!

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It was pretty interesting.  However, not as interesting as Dan’s cousin’s Eric’s Medical marijuana dispensary Lotus Medical.  It takes away all stereotypes of what amarijuana dispensary should be.  It’s upscale and unlike other dispensaries in the area, he only deals with medical clients who have a red card.  Even though recreational use of marijuana is legal in Colorado, they didn’t want to bring in the rift raft of the general public. They’d rather keep it upscale for their valued clients.  He’s got a good thing going there!  I was shocked to see all the different products available.  Everything from patches to cartridges for e-cigerettes, to candies and other ingestibles.  It was interesting to see.  It definitely opened my eyes to the good uses for marijuana.  Anyone who has had two glasses of wine to “feel better” can identify with the feeling.  It’s a feeling of no worries, introspection, relaxation and even pain reduction.  There’s certainly a use for it.  In moderation.  It can quickly become a crutch if you let it, as well as a de-motivator. Just like anything…moderation is key.  Know when you need it, and know when to stop. I personally don’t feel comfortable as a Mom using it because it makes me feel incompetent and unmotivated.  It also makes me over-analyze everything to the 100th degree, and those that know me know that I don’t need ANY help in that area! Haha!  I think my smoking days are in the past, but can definitely see a use for it, for those who need it.

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On Saturday, we met up with Dan’s family.  I met several aunts, uncles, cousins, etc. that I had never met before.  We met at a local restaurant that Ming loved, and enjoyed a beautiful memorial lunch with family.  Everyone had such sweet things to say about this amazing influential woman and I learned a little bit about her, but also quite a bit about each one of the family members there that day too.  It was beautiful.  I got to meet Jess of Boston Baby Mama.  I have been following her blog for a several years now, and we have kids around the same age, and it was nice to finally get a chance to chat with her, and meet her beautiful daughter Marlo.  Her youngest was with Daddy at home due to an illness, but I hope to meet her in the near future as well.  Dan’s cousin Steven and wife Janine have the sweetest little family with their adorable little boy Vinny.  It reminded me of all the joys of life with one, our first born! Lots of sweet family members, great memories of days past shared, and sweet memories of their dear Ming, who was very missed.

IMG_7597 IMG_7611 IMG_7605Our last day in Colorado, we checked out of our hotel room, grabbed breakfast and drove up to Mt. Evans.  We stopped along the way to take some photos, and then there was a restaurant/hotel that we stopped at and ate lunch.  Dan was impressed with his Tetris shaped tater tots! The views were amazing.  It was also interesting to see how the trees changed the higher up we went.  Very beautiful!

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We tried to make it up to the top, but it was snowing and very windy, so we  made our way back down.  We couldn’t get over the steep cliffs off the edge.  Fortunately, Dan and I were equally as terrified, so he drove very slow around the turns. Once the snow and wind picked up, we decided we just couldn’t stomach going any further. It just wasn’t enjoyable because it made us both sick thinking we could slide off the side of the road, down the steep cliff to our demise. Very scary!

 

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Then we headed to Idaho Springs, and it was a cute little town, but right after we parked, and got ice cream, the sky opened up, and it was pouring rain.  We didn’t get a lot of time to look around the stores and shop like we had hoped we would, but that’s okay.  It was definitely different not having the kids around.  It was quiet and uneventful.  Don’t get me wrong, I love one on one time with my husband, but it is just different when you’re used to having three rambunctious kiddos around, and then you don’t for a few days. We love our time together, but also cherish our time as a family too.

On our way back to the airport, we stopped at an Outdoor World.  It isn’t the mothership, but it was pretty close. Biggest Outdoor World we had ever been to.  It was very cool to see camping tents set up, lots of clothes, outdoor gear, etc. Very fun… They had some serious stuffed taxidermy animals (one that looked scary like our old dog Summer) and we got a little carried away without the kids.  I guess we missed the kids so much that we started acting like them. Haha.

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We made our way back home that evening.  It was brutal flying a delay’d red eye out of Denver.  We didn’t get home until 2:30, and the kiddos were up bright and early at 7:30! Back to reality! It was nice seeing them though.  We had missed them so much, but we really enjoyed our little mini-vaca away, spending time catching up as a couple and enjoying our one-on one time! Lisa and My Mom had had a great time spoiling the kiddos and taking them places.  It turned out to be a real fun time for the kiddos as well.

Enjoying Summer Break |iphoneography|

This summer with the boys out of school and having three mobile kiddos to entertain and keep up with, I’ve been working to keep ourselves busy without feeling exhausted from too many planned activities. One of my favorite things about having a break from preschool is not having to rush out the door early in the morning with three kids. I love snuggling in the bed with the kids, enjoying cartoons and delaying going downstairs for breakfast until after 8am.
I did plan a few things over the summer to keep the kids entertained. I decided to put together a playgroup for every Friday during the summer. I invited little friends that Parker and Mason either go to school with, or friends that they don’t get to see as much during the school year from previous play groups, and a few new little friends from the neighborhood. It’s been two weeks and there was a great turn out both weeks! Lots of little friends came to play at the park with us. We’ve done Wills Park and Sims Lake Park so far and we have Old Atlanta Splash Pad, The Art Barn, and Sharon Forks Library to celebrate the famous Author Eric Carl’s birthday for the month of June.
We’ve also been to the zoo with some friends, which is always a big hit with the kids, even if it’s slightly exhausting for us Mamas!

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Last week we enjoyed some grown-up time away from the kiddos, and went to see my favorite musician Jack Johnson. We went with a couple in our neighborhood who had mentioned that they like his music too. We had dinner beforehand and then headed over to Verizon Wireless Amphitheater. We enjoyed a wonderful evening of music, drinks, friends and summer fun!
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This weekend Parker went on a Father-son vacation with Daddy to go see his best friend Jim and his family in Philadelphia. Parker had a blast going to Sesame Place, enjoying a few local parks and spending some quality time with Daddy while he showed him around where he grew up.
I spent the weekend with the two youngest, playing it low key. We enjoyed park time, pool time, indoor play time and sweet treats.
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This week we have the boys enrolled I swim class. We feel they need a refresher course, so our mornings are packed with towels, swim suits and lessons for the week!

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Looking forward to seeing what the rest of the summer holds. It is my favorite season of all!

Palazzo By The Sea- Destin Vacation!


We missed the last week of Parker and Mason’s preschool to escape the madness of crowds and the exorbitant beach rental prices to go to Destin before the summer out-of-school rush.  This would be Sienna’s first trip to the beach because we skipped our beach trip last year due to all the extra expenses that occurred during our move into our new home.  So, we were all pumped for the trip!  Parker had remembered going two years ago, but Mason didn’t.  He was just fourteen months old. Dan’s parents had planned to join us mid-week, but due to a death in the family, they weren’t able to meet us this time. It was just the five of us for our first family beach trip in two years!

So, naturally as soon as we got to the beach house, the boys wanted to go to the beach! Seven hours in the car was enough to drive us all stir crazy, so we were excited to feel the sand between our toes and see the waves!  It was a little overcast, but it was still hot, so we went for it!

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IMG_2477Sienna was so cute in the water.  She would squeal with excitement running towards the water, then quickly turn around and run the opposite direction with a look of fear on her face. The waves and color was so different the first part of the week.  The waves were rougher than usual and there was a strong rip current, and the water was darker than we remembered.  We weren’t sure if it was because it was overcast or what, but fortunately it went back to normal mid-week.

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The waves were rough by gulf coast standards, and reminded me of the east coast beaches I grew up on.  The boys didn’t mind a bit though, it took them no time at all to get wet and enjoy the water.  No pics here of it, but they also brought their new boogie boards, and they loved learning how to use those for the first time, riding the surf in! Sienna had fun too, but for some reason had a hard time staying on her feet.  She looks like a drunk baby in this YouTube clip!

 

Our second day, Sunday, was Mother’s Day.  Since it was a little overcast still, we went to breakfast out and then went over near Silver Shells (near the Back Porch) where we’ve stayed before because we remember a nice playground by the beach and a few fun gift/candy store.  We were still on East Coast time, so we couldn’t really venture out much since most things were closed because it was still early.  The kiddos enjoyed playing on the playground and eating treats from the gift shop before heading down to Harbor walk to walk around and see about booking our snorkel boat tour later in the week.  We had lunch at a favorite touristy restaurant Harry T’s that has nice views of the marina and yummy food.  We also enjoyed shopping in a few of our favorite stores, feeding the fish, and enjoying the day.

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After lunch and naps, we decided to hit up the pool.  The boys had been practicing all spring with their swim classes, but completely froze up when we got to the pool! What gives?  We still had fun splashing around.  I brought my camera, but didn’t take the time to take pictures.

The beach house we stayed in was very nice.  It was upscale, but not exactly what was described in the description.  The listing for the beach rental on VRBO said OCEAN VIEW, and there wasn’t. It also said we would have access to the garage (which is great with kids because you don’t have to worry about them running out into the road when you’re loading up the car) and it wasn’t accessible. A few other disappointments included remote controls without batteries, and TVs that didn’t work. We had to have the management company come out and turn on the TV because we couldn’t figure it out. We own a media room in our current home, and my husband and I are very tech savvy, but it wasn’t clear. Apparently you were supposed to use the remote that was labeled “FOR TV VOLUME ONLY” to turn the receiver on, that was located in a different room. Ridiculous. There weren’t instructions to be found. Also, there was a gas leak in the kitchen, and the owner said “that’s common to have that odor because it’s a large range”…what? No. So, after requesting again that we don’t feel safe cooking here, they finally got someone out there to inspect the stove on Wednesday, and they did in fact find a leak. Scary! That was after we were cooking breakfast and half the power to the kitchen shut off while making pancakes on the griddle. Needless to say, that breakfast was ruined, and we weren’t happy campers. They left minimal soap for cleaning, no sponges to wash dishes. Enough detergent for one load of laundry. We’ve stayed at MANY VRBO places, and they always provide enough detergent and soap for your entire stay.  Our expectations were high since it’s labeled as such a luxury place.

In full disclosure, we did in fact get a small reimbursement for our troubles, but it wasn’t after receiving a rude and unprofessional email back from the management company about how it “wasn’t their fault the power went out, …” among other things.  It has enough dining space for about 20 people, but the living area is very small, and can only seat about five people comfortably. The kids bedrooms are on the bottom floor, and the master is on the third floor. This was a challenge for us because we had three small kids on the bottom floor near the exit of the home by themselves.  So, the layout of the house was less than ideal.  That was no fault of theirs, but still something to consider for next time. Honestly, we’re really not ones to complain, like-ever.  Overall, we still had a great vacation in spite of all of the house issues!  As a matter of fact, it had one of the coolest showers I’d ever seen.  It had two shower heads, and a third ceiling rainfall shower head.  It was perfect for after the beach.  Since our kids are so young, after a beach trip, we all just strip down and had a family shower.  It may sound crazy to some, but that’s what you do when you have little ones, and we all just need to get clean at the same time! The kids LOVED it!

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The next day, we went to the Gulfarium, which is Destin’s version of an aquarium.  We had been here once before with the kids, and decided to see it again. They really enjoyed it. We packed a lunch and ate it there. I’m not sure if we were allowed to do that, but we did.  After the aquarium and naps, we went to the beach for the rest of the day.  We certainly knew how to pack in the fun! The kids slept well that night.

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On Tuesday, we went on our boat snorkel tour we had planned.  We’ve done this every time we’ve been to Destin.  It’s not super easy with little ones, but it’s certainly do-able.  The fun and excitement certainly outweighed the hassle.  Actually there really wasn’t much of a hassle at all! The boat ride was from 9-12, which was great because it didn’t interfere with naps at all. We packed a lunch, and the kids came prepared with their swimsuits.  We brought a change of clothes, but we didn’t even use it.  They provided wet suits and Dan used them, but I didn’t.  I just thought it would be too hard with getting it on and off and trying to keep an eye on the kids at the same time.  Plus, they said the water was in the 70’s so that was warm enough for me.  The boys had wet suits with built-in life preservers.

The first stop was the snorkel area.  There were kayaks there as well, and that is what Sienna and I did together most of the time.  We didn’t get any pictures of it, but it was super fun.  She was SO incredibly happy and content with me paddling the kayak while she watched the water.  It was a gorgeous day.  The boys had fun riding the waves to shore.  Dan also took them both out on the kayak, and they enjoyed that as well.  We didn’t do a lot of snorkeling there because the recent rain had made the water pretty cloudy, but it was fun nonetheless.

Our second stop, we went into shallow waters looking for hermit crabs.  It was awesome.  We had our little net poles ready and we found SO many hermit crabs.  There were entire colonies of hermit crabs, all different sizes and shells.  It was awesome. The boys were so intrigued and loved every bit of it! We even found a medium sized blue crab!  The boys were tall enough to stand up in the waters and just walk since it was so shallow, and they were picking up all kinds of interesting things from under the water.  It was a great lesson about nature!  At the end, we brought our “fastest” hermit crab on the boat, and they had a hermit crab race. So much fun! We enjoyed eating a packed lunch as we headed back to dock.  The kids had a great time, and were very well behaved because they weren’t bored one bit!

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That evening we had dinner at Fudpuckers.  The kids have always loved seeing the alligators at this place. It was Sienna’s first time, and both boys had  gotten alligators there, so it was Sienna’s turn to pick out her alligator! It’s a fun family touristy place, and the kids love it!

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On Wednesday, it rained.  and rained. annnnnd…. well, rained some more.

We got the wild idea of going to see a movie.  We thought we’d go around Sienna’s nap time, and pray that she would fall asleep in the stroller.  So, we did just that! We went to the theater to see  Legends of Oz, and Sienna got through the previews eating lots and lots of popcorn.  Once it was time for the movie to start, I took her out and put her in her stroller and after some crying and strolling, she fell asleep.  I snuck her back in and joined the guys to resume my viewing pleasure.  It actually couldn’t have worked out better! Sienna’s first movie was a big hit even though she slept through most of it!

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On Thursday, we decided to take a little road trip up to Seaside to visit.  It’s only about 40 minutes from where we were. It was nice, and very pretty and cold.  The rainy weather on Wednesday had made the temps drop to the 60s and even though it was forecasted to warm up, we were all quite chilly.  We walked around a few of the overpriced clothing and toy stores and four stores, one lunch with meltdowns, dozens of pictures, and one stroller nap later, we were on our way back home.  Seaside is pretty, don’t get me wrong, but there’s just not enough for little kids to do there. They really need a little playground in the center courtyard for the kiddos, or just more kid things to do in general.  Since it was chilly, the beach wasn’t appropriate.

 

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On the way home from Seaside, we decided it had warmed up enough to go to the beach, so that’s what we did. We headed back to our beach house to get changed up and we walked to the beach about a block from where we stayed. The boys got to skip their naps and they were super excited about that. The waves had calmed down quite a bit, and the water was super calm!  We were so excited that the Destin beach waters that we knew and loved had finally returned!  If you look at the pictures at the beach from the beginning of the blog, there is a clear difference.  Parker was so comfortable with the water that he decided to practice lots of swimming! Mason was great too!BeachDay01 BeachDay02 BeachDay03 BeachDay04

Next to Destiny by The Sea, the community where we stayed, there was a great seafood place called the Crab Trap.  The food was great and the drinks were strong! We loved it so much the first night that we eat there one more time before we left, too.  So yummy!  When we first arrived at our beach house, we were missing the old area where we stayed near The Back Porch, but it turns out that we found new things to love about the new area that we stayed in, and it turned out to be very nice.

One thing we did this time, that we didn’t last time we were in Destin, and I recommend to anyone who has kids is USE THE CHAIR AND UMBRELLA SERVICE! The first few years when we went to the beach, we were carrying an infant, toddler, four chairs, an umbrella, camera, cooler, towels and beach toys! It was such a pain.  This time we just brought a big Ikea blue bag stuffed with beach toys, towels,  and a small soft cooler with drinks and snacks.  Sometimes it was a boogie board and my camera, but that’s it! Without the chairs and umbrella, it was so much easier to hold the hands of the kiddos or pick one up if needed and get to and from the beach without much trouble. Anything that makes our life a little easier on vacation is a win-win for us!

Our last day in Destin, we spent the morning at Destin Commons doing a little shopping, going to the cool Bass pro shop, and let the boys play in the spray ground area they have.  It wasn’t super warm, so we weren’t going to let them play initially, but they didn’t seem to mind the cold, because they jumped right in! Sienna took an early nap, so she missed the spray ground fun, but the boys more than made up for it. I didn’t bring my DSLR, so these are just iPhone pictures, but it captures the moments we had at the Bass pro shop and the fun morning we had at the spray ground.

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After a deliciously diet splurging meal at Johnny Rockets, and an afternoon nap, we hit the beach one final time before we headed home the next morning.  Seven days seems like a lot, but there are so much to do in Destin, and we were sad our vacation was coming to an end.  It’s no doubt that it’s a little different when you have young children all vying for your attention, and the new atmosphere and testing limits of rules can be mentally and physically draining, but it’s still worth it to make memories with the family, even if it is less than perfect at times. Hanging on to the fleeting moments that will soon be behind us as the children grow up and are no longer as dependent on us as parents, but gravitate towards their friends and free time.  Holding on to the less-than-perfect mounts for as long as we can, because they’re our real memories.  For that we are thankful and they make my heart full!

Lastly, here are a few iPhone pictures of our days on the beach and having fun at the Crab Trap for dinner one night!  Another great vacation to remember in Destin!

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Neighborhood Fun

The first warm Sunday of the year, and all the kids came out with suits on, ready to get wet. No plans, no pre planning, but somehow several neighbors busted out their kiddie pool and the kids decided to run from neighbor to neighbor’s house hopping in kiddie pools, playing in sprinklers, and water tables. We just had our deck stained, so we had our grill on the driveway cooking bbq chicken and we had a few beers. Perfect weather, great impromptu family fun!
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Types of Friendships

Okay, I know we’re all busy. Right? I mean, we have obligations to our families, our spouses, our friends, our bosses, to our homes. Everyone, everything, calls our attention in some manner. However, the one thing I’ve found is that the people or things in life that are the most important in our lives, we will make time for them. I will be the first to admit that I am not the best at this. We ALL fall short, because after all, we’re all human.

The BAD

The one that puts you last: Of course, you can’t be everyone’s best friend. You’re not meant to be! However, when you’re consistently pushed aside and don’t feel included, then it can feel very isolating. Feeling like you’re the last one to get invited to something because they “just thought of you” or being the last one who is called when there is a get together hurts. Period. Once or twice, sure… but consistently? No thank you.

The one that flakes out at the last minute: Okay, this one is an obvious one. I think everyone has had one of these friends, and usually people don’t keep them around for long.  It’s the flaky friend.  The one who says they are game for something, but then waits until the last minute to cancel.  Or, they’re the first to say they want to hang out, but then never show up or RSVP to anything.  This is a person who doesn’t value your time, or the time of your family.  Once or twice, sure… but consistently? No thank you.

The one who is always negative.  Nothing kills your spirit more than being around a negative person.  Everyone knows one. The one who picks out everything negative in their life and posts it on social media for everyone to feel sorry for them (and sugar coats it as “keeping it real”), or constantly talks about their kids or spouse in a negative manner.  Or worse, when you try to confide in them, they make you feel worse about a situation instead of uplifting you and making you feel better.  Once or twice, sure… but consistently? No thank you.

The one who doesn’t try: There’s nothing worse then feeling like you’re the one always “trying” to make the friendship work and the other person just sits back and waits for you to contact them about getting together.  Granted, grace is required when you’re a Mama.  I know this because I’m a Mom too, and I don’t always have the time either.  However, as stated in the beginning.  You make time for the things that are important in your life. You can’t always expect the other friend to be the one to contact you about getting together.  Once or twice, sure… but consistently? No thank you.

The one who talks badly about everyone: There’s nothing worse then having a friend who talks terribly about everyone that you know.  Then, pretends to be super sweet to their face.  We’re talking straight outta high school here.  Have I ever gossiped and said something about someone that casts them in a not-so-good light? Of course.  However, those who perpetually put others down seem to have other deep seeded issues that really need attention. Once or twice, sure… but consistently? No thank you.

The one who doesn’t align with your moral compass: Of course not everyone has to believe in or practice the same religious beliefs or moral values that I do.  However, a common ground of similar values I feel is important to sustain a friendship.  If someone goes off kilter it’s not the end of the world.  Once or twice, sure… but consistently? No thank you.

I know I’ve been guilty of being one of these “Bad” types of friends to quite a few of my friends over the years…. even my closest.  Sometimes it’s out of laziness, sometimes it’s out of pride or loneliness.  Sometimes it’s honestly because I don’t care for the person and I don’t make the effort.  However, I really strive to be the following friend instead.

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The GOOD

The one who inspires: A friend that inspires you to be the best you that you can be is someone I like to keep around.  One who inspires you to take the plunge when you’re anxious about an exciting opportunity, or one who simply inspires by their actions as a parent, wife, or friend.  Those friends are keepers for sure.

The one who’s always there for you:  There’s nothing that quite lifts your spirits like someone who’s willing to meet you for coffee, or someone who sends you a quick text to ask if you’re okay, let them know you’re thinking of them, or tries to plan a get together.  We sometimes feel lonely in our busy lives of a career or taking care of little ones, or we feel overwhelmed with it all.  I’ve always strived to do this when I can because I know how it makes me feel when I’m having a hard day. Those friends are keepers for sure.

The one who is a lot of fun: A friend that you can laugh with and have fun with, make fun of yourself, be yourself… those are great friends to keep around.  Making the time to get to know someone allows the freedom to have fun and feel vulnerable with someone without feeling judgement.  This takes someone who is willing to take the time and investment in the friendship. Those friends are keepers for sure.

The one who understands:  All friendships require a common thread to keep them together.  Understanding the person’s life stage of motherhood, or having a career interest, similar hobbies, religious interest, etc.  These help the friendship flourish so that each other can learn from one another or inspire one another.  Without this common thread, it’s hard to sustain a good friendship unless you’re open to changing your interest to match theirs.  It’s great to seek friends with a common life stage or interest.  Those friends are keepers for sure.

The one who loves unconditionally: We all have trials in our lives and ups and downs, and a true friend will see you through them, and love you without condition of your circumstance.  We are all human and make mistakes, or have a hardship and the friend that decides to see you through it instead of throwing in the towel on your friendship shows someone who is genuine with their friendship. Those friends are keepers for sure.

The one who invests in you:  Good friendships take time. It takes someone who is willing to invest time in you, ask questions to get to know you, and serve you in time of need.  Every good friendship had a moment where someone was giving of their time in order to hear about your life and take the time to get to know you.  Those friends are keepers for sure.

So why am I writing all of this?  Friendships I feel are so important to the heath and well being of people.  As a stay at home Mom, I feel like it is so important to engage in good friendships so that it can help me be the best person I can be. Does that mean that we have to be friends with everyone? Of course not.  I do feel that good friendships help us relate to others and be serve others in time of need.  They are so vital to our well being and we are designed with the intent of having good friendships. I know this is a goal of mine and I feel truly blessed and thankful for all the amazing friendships in my life and those who have served me.  I know, this is what I strive for in my friendships, and pray that I am able to provide a good friendship to others, most importantly, be able to serve them in a time of need.

 

St. Aidan’s Summer Concert

We will be sad to leave this preschool this year.  We decided that the commute to Alpharetta was just too much for us, so we have enrolled the boys in a school that is closer to our home for next year.  It’s bitter sweet for sure.  We absolutely love the little concerts they have the kids put on for the family!  They are super sweet, and reminds me how precious our little ones are. Love, love, love them! Hoping they have little programs at Parkway where they will be going next year.

The boys love to perform.  They aren’t shy in the least bit! Parker is a bit more outgoing than Mason, but Mason is our  musical one. Any given day, you’ll hear Mason singing a tune and dancing to his own beat.  I love that about him. Parker loves singing too, but more so to be the center of attention, we rarely hear him singing on his own without being prompted to do so.  Each of the kids’ class did a few songs and they were just precious in them!

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